Diary of an Overthinking Black Woman

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The Darkness

“There is no point treating a depressed person as though she were just feeling sad, saying, ‘There now, hang on, you’ll get over it.’ Sadness is more or less like a head cold- with patience, it passes. Depression is like... Continue Reading →


Make it Stop!

The final year of my engineering degree was hectic, and that’s putting it mildly. Generally the final year of any degree feels the most intense. Lecturers no longer feel you need any kid gloves. You’ve learnt theory for 3 years... Continue Reading →

Dirty Old Man

I generally don't know how to talk to people. They are quite foreign to me. There are too many variables at work when I meet someone new. Maybe that's just the years of isolation talking. I usually am not sure... Continue Reading →

Do you BELIEVE in God?

After my cousin Francis completed his matric, the family asked him the usual question, “What do you want to do with your life?” He was brave (now that I think about it) and actually said that he wanted to be... Continue Reading →

My Perfect First Time

I was twenty years old and I had never been in a romantic relationship. That year I had read this book (whose title I can't remember) that was about relationships and in the middle, it explained you should write a... Continue Reading →

I AM my sister’s keeper

In the bible, there is a story that is the epitome of a shitty human. Cain messed up but his youngen was praised for doing the right thing. So he killed Abel and then when he was asked about his... Continue Reading →

Confessions of a Skinny Black African Girl

Two weeks ago, I weighed myself and found I had lost 2kg (4.4lbs) in the past 2 months. Bringing my body mass to a grand total of 50.1 kg (110lbs) and at 1.67m (~5’5ft) that brings my BMI to borderline... Continue Reading →

I Don’t Speak No Other Languages

Yes, Yes, Yes. I know. I should be ashamed with of myself. How can I call myself an African? How can I only speak English when I was born and raised here? The standard African can at least speak one vernacular... Continue Reading →

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