Diary of an Overthinking Black Woman

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Baby or No Baby, that is the question?

Around the time I was 7 years old, I was super keen on extra-curricular activities. I wanted to do karate because it was so cool, I wanted to play an instrument, either the piano or violin,so that one day when... Continue Reading →


Do the Right Thing….Ts & Cs apply

When I was younger, I really thought adults had it together, especially when we went to church. The grown-ups made it seem like all you needed to do was go to church and follow the rules and you would be... Continue Reading →

Seriously, what Can’t I do?

It was the end of 2015, my lease was up, I had no sources of income, the previous month’s pay hadn’t come through, and I was well into being an Occupation Recruitment Agent. There was yet another job application I... Continue Reading →

The Darkness

“There is no point treating a depressed person as though she were just feeling sad, saying, ‘There now, hang on, you’ll get over it.’ Sadness is more or less like a head cold- with patience, it passes. Depression is like... Continue Reading →

Make it Stop!

The final year of my engineering degree was hectic, and that’s putting it mildly. Generally the final year of any degree feels the most intense. Lecturers no longer feel you need any kid gloves. You’ve learnt theory for 3 years... Continue Reading →

Dirty Old Man

I generally don't know how to talk to people. They are quite foreign to me. There are too many variables at work when I meet someone new. Maybe that's just the years of isolation talking. I usually am not sure... Continue Reading →

Do you BELIEVE in God?

After my cousin Francis completed his matric, the family asked him the usual question, “What do you want to do with your life?” He was brave (now that I think about it) and actually said that he wanted to be... Continue Reading →

My Perfect First Time

I was twenty years old and I had never been in a romantic relationship. That year I had read this book (whose title I can't remember) that was about relationships and in the middle, it explained you should write a... Continue Reading →

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